“Cutting cords doesn’t mean, “I don’t love you or care about you anymore.” Cord cutting doesn’t necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships. It simply means that you are releasing the dysfunctional parts of your relationships. Remember, fear is the opposite of love, and etheric cords (and all attachments) are created from fear”. Doreen Virtue
Positive and Negative Cords
Cords are a method of high speed communication and sharing energy. Healthy cords create a nurturing sharing of information and energy. Unhealthy cords can be a huge drain or a means of control. They are attached by mutual agreement, but there are lots of ways to persuade, trick, or con people into being corded. Often they were useful, but outlive their usefulness. The cord may have been very important when you were 2 years old, but now in adulthood it is no longer useful, but the cord is still there.
Who do we form cords to?
Most major cords are formed with:
Lovers, spouses (exes and present), children, parents, siblings, close friends, sexual abusers, any sexual partners.
More minor cords are often formed with: clients, teachers, bosses, co-workers, friends, acquaintances.
Every relationship is unique so you could have a major cord to your boss but a minor cord to your favourite sibling. Sometimes cords are so minor that they don’t affect you at all.
You will usually be able to tell who you have the most toxic cords with, because there will be a certain negativity associated with the relationship, no matter how much you love or respect the person.
The most impactful cord cutting I’ve seen happens through cutting cords to parents, partners and ex-lovers.
Method to cut the cords
Go for a walk. A park is a good place, the more natural the better… Just make sure you are not going to meet anyone and have to cut the line of thought. Clear your thoughts and center your attention in the breathing, entering is a soft meditation state.
Take a memory that joins you to this person and say:
I thank you for this memory, because it brought me to where I am now. Now I release you… follow your path, I’ll follow mine.
Thoughts have power. Anything you think about will start walking its way toward existence (whether you like it or not). And imagine a thin silver cord that represents that connection, run over it with your hand and cut it clean. It is easy to cut, like a spider web.
Repeat it with all the memories you have that are painful about this person–letting him/her go.
At the end I use a general statement on the form of:
Now, I release all those painful memories that I am not recalling, but that are still inside, I thank you for your actions as they brought me to where I am today, but it is time to let you go. I am clean from you and your shadow. You will no longer affect me in any way in the future. Be at peace. At the same time, I ask your forgiveness for all the pain I might have caused you, I free you from it. Be at peace. May this moment be blessed and these actions be the best for the highest good of everyone involved.
Cutting thicker cords
It is funny how imagery works, as some cords refuse to get cut, and you need to go heavy duty and use
scissors or even swords. Some people have asked for angelic help to cut some particularly persistent cords. Most cords are there by common agreement. But in some cases the cords exist as a result of parasitic relationships. In those cases the cords usually enter from the back, not the front, they are darker (black most of the times) and yucky feeling. Those cords are difficult to cut, but if you cut memory by memory, it is usually easier than trying to cut the whole set at once. Sometimes I just change the imagery and make them evaporate, instead of cutting. If you have any of those heavy duty cords attached, after cutting them you will need to “wrap” your aura to avoid leaking.
How do you know it is working?
I feel it is working when I have that blessing feeling during the process. It is the signal of a process that is actually working. Sometimes it might not work, especially if we have unfinished business with this person and we know the pain will go on in the future. But we always can let go of part of the emotional burden, and strengthen ourselves for what will come.